Can a serial dater change?
Well, I sure hope so, or there’d be a sad number of old single people in the world! I kid.
Of course, many people grow out of unhealthy dating behaviors when they are truly ready to settle down and find The One. That can happen with age or a sudden surge in maturity, but either way, they have to want to not be a serial dater anymore.
Here’s where you come in: While I would never recommend waiting around on someone who clearly isn’t ready to commit, I do recommend taking back the power, by letting this person know that you want and deserve more. Play hard to get, go on dates with other people, live your life and have fun.
If you make it clear that this serial dater isn’t just going to “get you,” if they want you badly enough, they’ll change their ways to make a relationship work. And if you walk away and they don’t come after you? Well then, you just dodged a bullet—and showed them who’s boss. What’s more powerful than that?
Chloe Carmichael, PhD “Dr Chloe” Carmichael, PhD, is a relationship therapist in New York City, author of Dr Chloe’s 10 Commandments of Dating, and proud member of WH’s advisory board.